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Jenny added, “It’s such an isolating journey. It’s so hard and you’re so alone that I didn’t want other moms to feel like I did. I’ve lived through my mom’s death at a young age and a divorce and this was, by far, the hardest.”
Jenny and Michelle’s book is one example of a grassroots effort started by parents who saw a need for information and support for families facing a mental health crisis. Across the country in California, another mom is doing similar work to make a difference.
Tami Ann
Tami Ann was inspired to write a book based on her family’s experience finding help for their 14-year-old son who started struggling with mental health issues after what she described as “drastic changes in high school.” Tami Ann said her son went from being a “happy-go-lucky” kid singing in the school choir and winning MVP on his school’s water polo team to isolating in his room. His grades were slipping and her son started self-medicating with cough syrup, alcohol, and marijuana.
After meeting with a psychiatrist who diagnosed him with major depressive disorder, anxiety and attention deficit disorder, Tami Ann and her son’s father hoped that medication would help. But the prescription led to “extreme emotional dysregulation and suicidal ideation” which required Tami Ann to lock up knives in the house and to sleep by his bed when her son didn’t seem safe. They were living in constant fear their son would harm himself.
For school, the family tried an IEP - Individualized Education Plan - to help him feel supported in the classroom and even enrolled their son in a smaller, private school. None of that fixed what Tami said was “going on deep inside of him.”
“We knew we needed to think outside the box to help him,” Tami Ann said.
Tami Ann learned about wilderness therapy but her son’s local therapy team wasn’t supportive based on limited knowledge or misconceptions about residential treatment programs. A friend referred her to an educational consultant who places kids in therapeutic programs. It took Tami Ann two years to finally decide to enroll her son.
“I feel like it would be beneficial for school counselors, psychologists, private therapists, and other mental health professionals to educate parents about this level of treatment,” said Tami Ann. “At least to point parents in that direction when their kids are in crisis so they know it’s an option.”
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