Simone and LordeA new column about sexuality, womanhood, and power by Rahima Rice.
What is a mistake? The act of poor decision-making? A sure sign of immaturity? When babies make mistakes, parents take all the blame. A spill can’t be a baby's mistake, as they haven’t lived long enough to know better. But, as they get older and their mistakes repeat themselves, they’re expected to know better. And when you become an adult, well, all bets are off. Making a mistake could reap the kind of consequences that cost someone their life.
A poor decision could land you in prison.
By a certain age, we’re expected to know better, about damn near everything. People expect adults to manage money, a home, a car, a family, maintain a job, and get everywhere on time. And we’re expected to take care of ourselves. Because, if we get a fatal disease, because of poor decision making, all that other stuff we’re supposed to manage and take care of turns to shit. All of this accountability to ourselves leads to tremendous worry.
I'm Gonna Make a Mistake | By Rahima Rice | Simone and Lorde | The Daring
I am a card-carrying member of the worry club. But I’m showing up in relationships as my whole self, flaws and all, and evolving outside the narrow margins of perfectionism brought on by the patriarchy.