I am an independent German photojournalist, documentary photographer and cultural anthropologist based in Berlin. A careful play of documentation and artistry, my work focuses on concepts of femininity, power and identity. I am specifically...
My grandmother, Helga von Randow, was 92 years old when she was diagnosed with dementia. Shortly afterwards, she was admitted into a closed medical facility as her disease had deteriorated. Five months later, Helga passed away.
Over the course of these five months, I visited Helga often, spending quality time with her and documenting her daily life. I am grateful that I got to share so much time with my gran during her final weeks, doing all the things she loved most: playing card- and dice games, listening to her favorite singer Udo Jürgens, taking her out for walks in the park and having iced coffee in an Italian cafe.
As time progressed, the dreadful effects of Helga’s illness, not only on herself but the rest of the family became apparent: My mom, Nicoletta, and I were trying hard to cope with the situation, feeling incredibly powerless and paralyzed. Holding onto my camera gave me the strength and a certain distance to face the tragic reality of her horrible disease. The moment I put my camera aside, the pain would hit me with force: There was nothing I could do to help Helga. All I could do was to be by her side, hold her hand, and helplessly watch her once so witty spirit disappear and her body wither away.
When Helga passed away in October 2015 I was heartbroken, yet I also felt relief. Relieved because she didn’t have to suffer any longer. Relieved because she still recognized Nicoletta and I until the end. I was smiling through my tears, because I knew that she was resting in peace, freed from this awful disease.
This body of work is a tribute to my grandmother, whose grace and courage never seized to amaze and inspire me.
No one likes to think about death. When we do we inevitably question our own mortality. We feel helpless when faced with demise, trapped in its consequence and inescapable finality. Yet, the awareness of how limited time is makes one appreciate each shared moment so much more. Bedburg, GERMANY, August 14, 2015.
'Transition'. Helga and Nicoletta walking. Helga always loved going for a stroll. Even at 92, she would still go outside every day. „Kopf und Beine müssen immer in Bewegung bleiben“ (“Head and legs always have to keep moving“), was one of her life mottos. Bedburg, GERMANY, 1 June, 2015.
'Disturbia'. Helga riding the elevator in her house. Nicoletta had explained that she was moving to a retirement home today. Helga protested, then forgot about it a few moments later, only to ask again where we were going. Neuss, GERMANY, May 29, 2015.
'Throw of the dice'. Helga always loved games. Once I tested her during a match of Yatzy, claiming that "4x5=30". "No!", she corrected me immediately, "4x5=20!” Studies show that cognitive activities can delay the onset of memory decline in persons who suffer from dementia. Bedburg, GERMANY, September 16, 2015.
'Adjustment'. After arrival at the retirement home, a nurse explained the daily routines and activities to Helga. Helga had been living by herself for over 40 years. Adopting to her new surroundings - including having a room mate for the first time in her life - proved very difficult for her. Wegberg, GERMANY, May 29, 2015.
'State of mind'. Helga looking out of her living room window. This day Helga was moved out of the apartment in which she had lived in for 55 years, to be admitted into a closed medical facility. Neuss, GERMANY, May 29, 2015.
'Reluctance'. Helga leaving her living room. On the right hand side, there is a picture Nicoletta when she was 16 years old. Nicoletta grew up in this apartment with Helga and her grandmother Edith. Neuss, GERMANY, May 29, 2015.
'Chocolate pudding'. At times Helga was interacting like her old witty self; at other times she would be in another world, listlessly staring into nothingness. Here Nicoletta encouraged Helga to eat her chocolate pudding. Wegberg, GERMANY, June 1, 2015.
'Estrangement'. Helga and Nicoletta inside Helga's bathroom at the closed medical facility. As time progressed, the effects of Helga’s illness, not only on herself but the other family members, became apparent. That day Helga was hallucinating and Nicoletta got very upset. Bedburg, GERMANY, September 17, 2015.
'Absence'. Helga stares into nothingness while Nicoletta jokes with another patient on the veranda of the closed medical facility. At times Helga was interacting like her old witty self; at other times she would be in another world. Bedburg, GERMANY, October 8, 2015.
'Memorial'. Nicoletta arranges a flower during Helga's memorial, which was held in the closest cricle of family and friends. During a ceremony family members spread some of Helga's ashes in the river Rhine. Cologne, GERMANY, December 5, 2015.
'Closure'. Helga now rests in peace at 'Heiliger See' (Engl: Holy Lake). I released her ashes into the wind there because it was Helga's favorite place in her birth town, Potsdam, as a young woman. Potsdam, GERMANY, August 25, 2016.